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Loving you, without plastic surgery…

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It's not easy accepting yourself "as is" when the media is constantly sending messages that plastic surgery is the way to happiness.

What we forget to focus on is what really matters. Think about the things that really matter to you when you meet someone. Yes, you need to be attracted to them but you can only stare at a picture for so long. If there is nothing beneath the surface, then you probably lose interest quickly. What makes a relationship successful is a couple that can share their thoughts and opinions, laugh and enjoy life experiences together.

Your looks define about 5% of who you are. Think about it. Write down all the qualities you possess. Your traits and inner qualities will only improve with time, looks will fade. If you put all of your energy on how you look, you will never be truly happy.

I remember a time when I was about 20 and I was obsessed with working out, how my hair looked, if my nails were done and more. I was dependent on my looks and wasn't focusing on my inner qualities I possessed. I wasn't focusing on college, focusing on my dreams and aspirations but just myself! I became truly happy when I changed my attitude and started focusing on the inner qualities that I possessed and not my exterior anymore. I don't want you to fall in the same trap I did for awhile.

Here are 9 ways that will help you stay focused on "Loving you":

1. Make a list of the qualities you possess- put this list somewhere that you can read it every day!
2. Surround yourself with positive people: friends, family, role models, etc.
3. Believe that you do DESERVE the best out of life. Never settle because you don't think you deserve it because you do.
4. STOP yourself from focusing on the things you don't possess! Only remind yourself the things that do make you just as special
as anyone else.
5. Don't let people that don’t really know you, bring you down. If someone says something hurtful, consider the source, and move on!
6. When you are looking for the right guy, look at the guy that always seems happy and genuine. Don't invest time on the "overly confident guy"…he's not worth your time!
7. Choose your mate carefully and don't ever settle. I know I said this before but it's worth repeating!
8. Don't compare yourself to others. It's wasted energy and doesn't accomplish anything.
9. Focus your energy on YOU, your life goals, and what makes you smile.

Best of luck in love and life this New Year!

Dr. Nina

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