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Yes, every relationship is full of "love" at the beginning.
It's fun, it's new and it's exciting! This is normal and to be expected.
What is unexpected is how you feel months later. Suddenly, you may realize
the spark is not as strong or maybe not even there.
Does this mean your relationship is over, that you should break
up with the person? No. This is also normal and to be expected.
Relationships are about connecting, learning, and growing with one another.
It's important
to nurture your relationship. Take time for each other and appreciate
what IS working in your relationship. Focus on the positive things. Relationships
are like plants. If you don't take care of them then they will die. Two
people may separate because they have not paid attention to each others
needs and did not communicate openly with one another. Don't be afraid
to say something if it bothers you. Always let the other person know
how you feel.
In a connected and honest relationship you will experience downfalls
and arguments. Pay attention, this is where you will learn the most about
yourself and the other person.
Accept the imperfections; accept the "wrongs." Do your best
to forgive the other person. There will be times in relationships where
you hit a pivotal point. You will both stay together and be stronger
or move on.
There are some scenarios such as "unfaithfulness" or "abuse" where
you may need to move on. It depends on your age and what the other person
is willing to do to change.
Questions to ask yourself if the other person has hurt you in this way.
1. Can I forgive this person?
2. Can I "let go" of this person's past behavior and not dwell
on what this person did in the past?
3. Is this person truly sorry and sincere?
4. Do I see a change
for the better in this person?
5. Has he or she been honest and respectful since the incident?
If you answered yes to ALL of these questions, then you can get through
this time in your relationship. If you answered no to one or some of
these questions then it may be time to "let go." There is no
right or wrong answer but only what is best for you. This is what matters
most.
Take care of yourself and love yourself. You will end up with the "right" person
if you listen to yourself always.
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