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A friend of mine called me and told me her life seemed "dull and boring."
If I told you about her background and all that she has, you would probably
wonder why she said this. Have you ever felt this way?
We all hit low points in our lives where nothing seems to be going right.
We may not have that perfect job. We may not have that perfect girlfriend
or boyfriend. We may not even have a significant other to share our free
time with. Can you relate to this?
What do you do to get out of this place of discouragement and into
a place of contentment?
It's all about reframing your situation It's looking at your
life through another lense that is "positive" and not so "negative." It's
not about forgetting the struggles but looking at them differently.
Here's an example: You and your girlfriend are doing okay but
the spark that was once there isn't right now, which makes you feel disappointed.
Your job is okay but you dream of doing something different. Life just
seems "blah."
Now, lets "reframe" the example given above: You and your girlfriend
may be doing "just okay" BUT you are not fighting or upset with one another,
which is good. You are probably at a place in your relationship where
you are both really comfortable with each other and can talk about almost
anything. The initial spark that was once there at the beginning can be
started again. Just get creative and have some fun!
Your job may seem "just okay" but at least you have a job where you are
getting paid. You probably have cultivated new friendships at work and
this helps make your job more enjoyable. It may not be your dream job
but there are probably many benefits you get from working there. Try and
find the high points. Also, take steps to follow your dream too!
Reframing is about looking at the good even when it's difficult.
It's about changing your lense to a positive one instead of a negative
one. Your thoughts will determine your attitude and how you view and act
out in your life.
We all go through pitfalls in life. What's important is that we know
how to get out of them. If you keep a positive attitude, then you will
be able to persevere even through the difficult times. Try this approach.
Start learning to "reframe" your situation. Look for the positive and
see how this new attitude impacts your life.
Dr. Nina
Read previous articles: August 2006 - Got the
blues and don't know what to do?
June 2006 - Are you co-dependent or interdependent in your relationship?
March 2006 - Abusive Relationship? Top 10 Q & A you should know
February 2006 - Valentine's Day- Gifts on a Budget
January 2006 - New Year, New Beginnings
December 2005 - A Metamorphose and Christmas
November 2005-Are you ready to
invite your mate to Thanksgiving Dinner?
October 2005 - Are You Independent?
September 2005 - "How to Attract
Abundance"
August 2005 - Storms of Life
July 2005 - What Script are you Reading
in your Life?
June 2005 - Perserverance
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